Relationships are complicated. Even when they are going well, there are a lot of moving parts that could become problematic at any time.  Most people who bring their relationships to therapy have been struggling with their issues for years.  It can take a lot of work, but it is certainly possible to make the changes and repairs needed to recover from relationship troubles due to specific stressors (recent financial insecurity, an affair or infidelity, the gender transition of a partner, moving in together, etc.), as well as more entrenched problems (mismatched communication styles, long-standing trust or intimacy issues, etc.).  My goal is to help partners improve their communication, understand their relationship patterns, and increase their empathy towards each other to improve their overall sense of connection.

Unlike many therapists, I do not automatically assume that you are coming to treatment to ultimately stay together.  Although relationship counseling is usually thought about in terms of improving existing relationships, I have found that my services have also been useful for those establishing new relationships and for those wanting to end their relationships in a thoughtful and caring manner.  Our first few sessions will help us determine the appropriate goals for you and your partner(s).

I provide therapy for couples as well as for those engaged in open relationships, polyamory, and other forms of consensual non-monogamy.  I welcome same-sex partners, as well as relationships where one or more partners has a non-binary gender identification.

Couples and multiple partners usually come to see me for:

  • Communication problems

  • Cohabitation issues

  • Sexual issues related to pain, performance, arousal, technique, inhibition, orgasm, etc.

  • Navigating consensual non-monogamy

  • Recovery from affairs and infidelity

  • Collaborative separation/divorce