Couples Counseling

Relationships can be complicated. Often, people who seek relationship therapy have struggled with their problems for years and are nearing a breaking point. It can take a lot of work, but repair and change are possible, whether dealing with specific stressors like acute financial insecurity, infidelity, cohabitation issues, the gender transition of a partner, etc., or more entrenched problems like mismatched communication or attachment styles, or long-standing trust or intimacy issues. I aim to help you improve communication, understand your relationship patterns, and build empathy to strengthen your connection.

Unlike many therapists, I don't assume that you're seeking therapy to stay together. My services can be just as valuable for those wanting to end relationships in a thoughtful and caring manner, as they are for those starting new relationships or reconfiguring old ones. In our initial sessions, we’ll identify the right goals for your relationship.

I offer therapy for couples, open relationships, polyamory, and other forms of consensual non-monogamy, and I especially welcome queer partnerships where one or more partners are transgender or non-binary. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏴‍☠️

Common reasons couples seek my help:

• Communication issues and attachment style differences

• Cohabitation challenges

• Sexual difficulties, including pain or arousal issues

• Non-monogamy and BDSM/kink dynamics and boundary negotiation

• Recovering from affairs and infidelity

• Collaborative separation or divorce

Insurance:

I accept Lyra Health and offer therapy virtually from Oakland to all of California.